Head Trash. It's the sinister combination of thoughts that pop up in our heads whenever we have a new desire, big thought, or exciting idea. This happens to all humans.
When you are a BIG THINKER, you'll need a plan to deal with head trash. That's why I keep this trash can on my desk. I've learned to write down those irritating distractions and stuff them right into the trash can. At the end of the day, those slips of paper go right into the shredder.
It hasn't always been an instant process for me. In the early days of my business, I'd hold onto the thoughts, ruminating over them for days, weeks, and even months. With practice, I've learned to release these sabotaging thoughts almost the moment they come into my head.
What happens to you when you have an inspiring idea?
For many women, sabotaging thoughts may sound like this:
There are too many things going on right now.
I'll do this after ______(kids go to school, lose weight, get more experience, etc.)
Someone smarter has probably already done it.
This would make others feel uncomfortable or awkward.
FIRST, I should organize the ___.
I really need to clean the ____.
This little trash can (use whatever you like) is the perfect place to put these kinds of thoughts. I tell all of my clients that when they have a thought like this, write it on a piece of paper and take a long look at it. Carefully consider the message. Try to see the situation as though you are looking through the window at yourself as an objective observer.
Is it the actual truth?
Most times, the thought is a twist on the truth to keep you right where you are.
According to the primitive part of your brain, staying right where you are is a safe place where you are in no danger of being harmed or embarrassed, or exposed.
AHHH...Isn't that interesting?
Great news, friends. Being embarrassed, or not getting things right the first time is NOTHING LIKE being chased by a saber tooth tiger. So you can thank your brain, but let it know all is ok and it's time to move forward with that idea.
Now we've identified the head trash, let's dispose of it.
Ask yourself this question: What is the truth?
The truth is that I am excited about my new idea, and a little worried it won't succeed.
The truth is that I don't need a certification, recommendation, or anyone's approval to make this move.
The truth is that this move may surprise people, but it's the best choice for me/my family right now.
Don't let your trash can get overfilled. There is no need to keep the old and harmful thoughts in your work or living space. Once you've got the head trash stored in the trash can, and have replaced it with a more truthful and helpful thought, you can empty the trash in whatever way is most helpful to you. I personally shred them in my office shredder.
If you come on a retreat with me, we'll either shred these negative messages or burn them in our fire pit. 🔥
NOW--eliminate that head trash, friend! Have a positive and productive day!
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