Updated: Oct 17
Why are you doing that?
Don't you worry that people won't like you?
You can't make money doing that.
That's a big risk.
A lot of people think ____ about you.
You should be a _____.
You would be happier if you would just ____.
When are you going to get married?
Why do you always have to be different?
When you're growing, chances are you're also out-growing some friends. This is one of the most painful parts of personal development, and something I've really struggled with during my own journey. I've always wanted everyone around me to:
be comfortable and happy
accept and like me
The problem is, when you're changing and becoming a better human, not everyone is going to be good with your new choices. Many people will be uncomfortable and critical, because of the ways these changes make them feel.
This disapproval usually shows up as criticism, complaining, manipulation, anger, or subtle acts designed to keep you "in your place." When this happens now, I quickly remember that I'm up-leveling and not everyone can handle that, but in the early days, I spent a lot of time feeling sad, worried and sometimes obsessed with the fact that everyone did not approve of my choices.
Even when you understand why this is happening, it's still painful. The best thing you can do is make new friends that are like-minded and think your ideas and behaviors are sensible and admirable. 😃
Making new friends will require you to step outside of your comfort zone, so I made a new video with some tips to help you do just that:
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Remember, you can still keep your old friends, but it's very important for you to be around people who help you stretch and become the best version of yourself. Also, remember that I believe in you. 🥰
Making others uncomfortable is something I've been doing my entire life. I write about it in my newest book Overcoming Imposter Syndrome, due out in bookstores next week. I also write about it in one of my most popular books From Frantic to Focused, which you can purchase in bookstores in the US, UK, Canada, Australia, or online.